Take my friend Melissa L. for example. When she see's bee's, she see's the perfect example of how everyone working together and doing their part provides the sweetness and nurturing. (Honey.) When I see bee's, I see a possible allergy attack and a great big doctor's bill, with memories of a ruined vacation when my foot and leg swelled up for five days and I had trouble walking. Same bee, different outlook, and both outlooks are correct in the context of their perception.
Quilts, and the making of quilts...it's perception driven.
Another example would be the blocks below. Both blocks are made using half square triangles. The star block on the right uses 24 half square triangles, and the pinwheel on the right only used four. Same steps, different look. (We have had beginning quilters almost pass out in quilt club when they saw the Star block until we were able to explain how do-able the block is. )
She was at a craft/sew time at the local church. “I was heading out of my comfort zone...and thinking of making a cute little tote. One of the ladies there had one she had just finished. "Oh, it's so easy! It's just so easy” No matter what Kristy said, the lady kept telling her how easy it was.
“Hey, I bet if I brought my combine over and parked it in the parking lot you couldn't back it up.” Kristy finally said.
“Well, no.” Said the at this point very confused lady. (after all, what does combining have to do with sewing? “But it's so easy” piped up Kristy. Then after a dramatic pause, “Because I know how!” That's when one of the older ladies kicked her under the table to let her know the point had been made.
Brilliantly said and explained.
There are so many things to think about when you are trying to understand another perspective when quilting! My husband is color blind. For him this doesn't mean he see's things in black and white, but he needs a strong contrast in values in order to see things clearly. We can look at the same wall paper print and he might see big camouflage blobs, and I'll see wild flowers. When I make him a quilt, their needs to be a strong amount of contrast with background colors in order for him to see the shape. Others might find the quilt too stark or bold, but they are not looking at it through his eyes.
For others, the perspective may be skewed by their upbringing. My Grandpa did not care for black and gray. Growing up that is how the woman in his family dressed, bright happy colors were taboo. When I was a little girl whenever I had a new dress he was sure to compliment it....until I bought a black one. Then he wanted to know who died. (I miss Grandpa!)
I know of other people who feel slightly apprehensive about driving red cars. Growing up, red was viewed as “Flashy” and “vain”, and indulging yourself in driving an automobile of such a color marked you as one step further away from the faith. My offspring do not care for red cars simply because we bought three in a row...and they all broke down at one point and left them stranded on the side of the road. To them, red is perceived as “old and broken.”
So when we look at projects made by others, we need to keep in mind the perspective of the maker before rendering judgment. Same as when we are making a quilt meant to bring comfort and joy for the receiver
We can sum it up with this quote from Abraham Lincoln. “We can complain because rose bushes have thorns, or rejoice because thorn bushes have roses.”
So go smell the Roses!